Are you happy being gay?

[soy_yo]

I am happy but what I don't like and makes me feel sad it's homophobe

[ButtyBoy]

I sometimes forget that I am gay because it's not an issue for me and I don't care what others think of it as long as they leave me alone and do not bother me.

[bottom4ever]

its sa fact that u r not normal like everybody else and u got strang feeling

[soy_yo]

its sa fact that u r not normal like everybody else and u got strang feeling I feel myself normal I feel sad when some people is rude because they're homophobe

[joseph1967]

It is not every day one comes to know himself and becomes honest with his feelings and especially sexuality. Entering into this venue of self care and faith in one's own true self is a blessing and never a curse. If people do not approve, who cares! Eventually taboos become normal and realities change with time; the only victim isone who hides who he is in fear of the other

[ButtyBoy]

I think you have a very good point there joseph1967

[maturelondon]

happiness is always a relative concept ... and being gay, bi or str8 has only a small contribution to it (at least most of the time, for most of us)

[fearful]

im verey happy with my sexualty but my family is homophobic and i cant change them

[joseph1967]

I think you have a very good point there joseph1967

Thanks Buttboy, and I really hope this is your photo--sounds superficial, if it does, sorry!--because I day dream about it. Looking into one's own self is a blessing that should be welcomed, not fought or resisted. The longer one waits, teh greater teh agony of self denial. People, customs, norms and the views they advocate are dynamic...they change, sometimes for the better. But a lucky person is one whose self knowledge is resolute and lived, not only for him but also for otehrs to absk in its glory...Thanks again, hope to have the chance to meet you one day and love the selves we know and care for

[maturelondon]

im verey happy with my sexualty but my family is homophobic and i cant change them

we can choose our friend but not our family ... please remember that is the same with them ...

[harry__x]

Isn't Everyone :)

[harry__x]

i love it , so i do

[joseph1967]

we can choose our friend but not our family ... please remember that is the same with them ...

That is wise MtaureLondon, the animal knows not which flock it is born to, but it rides, the man who is carved into a birthplace and a family has been carved once and for all in stone...But that is true of all matters of life...work, jobs, choices, success, failure...If one is to live his life for others, he will be occupied and soemtimes feel that it is a noble cause to please them all...Indeed one may think that it is his source of happiness but it isn't...And happiness itself is fleeting, changing and masterfully manipulative.

But to think that otehrs should approve of everything that one does with his body, his own God's gift is a bit of a heavy burden...My friend,they don't need to know if it will hurt them and amke you sad...It does not take away from you to have your secrets and your own dreams...Let them be yours...seek comfort in those that comfort you, not those that are going to judge, and set themselves above you...

The life you lead can eb yours, and only yours...the parts of it taht you keep enshrined within you, are alos yours, they belong in all their beauty to your own soul...What father can imagine what his son does in teh bed room and what father needs to know? None...So don't be afraid...but do not let it hurt you...Be happy in your little secret and in teh fact taht you know who you are at such an early age...Do you ahev an idea how painfull it is to bottle up who you are for decades? the pain itself is shattering, ask me. So, live your life, others don't need to know your every detail...Their acceptance will not make things better, nor worse...It you who chrats his destiny, not those hwo are close...Soon you will make your own path, make sure you are in control!

[frostfire666]

sometimes yes sometimes no really...

[geisha]

Hi guys!

I think we all ought to feel happy... oh-so happy... that at least we're fully aware of who we are and where we're heading.

Well-said, everyone!
We're not here to live for others, if u yourself are not happy in the 1st place, there's no point making people around u happy while u're in misery...
We do not need to announce who we are, but at least live a life u find meaningful in... hey, u too exist in this world and u own a part of it too!

Of course I feel happy... but I do have one regret... where and when will I find my Mr. Right?! I need to be loved too! :o


:rolleyes: Geisha

[sony15]

I feel good, I do a normal life. I´m a person like the other milions in the world. I see like this.

[bottom4top]

Yes , I am happy and i am bottom gay . i love big cock and i think this is good for me .
i want to be happy and find a good partner for sex and life .

[smooth]

yes i have been ''out'' since i was 15 years old and sometimes i even forget about,being gay per sey, i love being gay as i love being with a man,of course there is always hasseles in life no matter what......

[pasdeloup]

That's it being gay or straight, who cares? Enjoy live and the men u meet.

[smooth]

yeah thats cool

[raul1977]

i am not happy to be a gay

[tomcruise]

No, I am not happy to be a gay.

[Ghia]

I prefer to be not gay but i can't.
But I like women for sex also.

[nonarab4you]

i'm feeling fine!

[nonarab4you]

Although i can't say bout others!

[verdure1981]

i am happy

[marky2143]

I'd do anything to become straight. My life is pretty much screwed because if it.

[tdic6070]

I am extremely happy with my sexuality i am proud to be gay but i do know that there ae so many people in the world who are in parts of the world where they need to hide who they are because it is so not acceptable to be the peson you are so i can only wish that there is a day in the future where all gay guys Arab or non Arab's can just open to everyone about who the true person is inside them!

[scanner]

I'm happy being me. Sexuality has nothing to do with it.I don't look at it as one being normal and the other not just different.Ones sexual preference isn't a big deal at my job or in my town. Maybe I'd feel diferent if it was. Maybe you should ask - Would you change if you could? I wouldn't. - I think.

[boy212]

im happy too

[raoul_lopz]

ye...
depends what mood i'm in :)

[ymrum]

no problem,
but sometimes I regret not getting married and have children...

[geisha]

Hey, I'm disturbed! Its pretty sad to see that so many of u guys out here are actually unhappy being gay...

Of course, I'm not saying that I'm 100% happy being gay in a little conservative country like Singapore... but then, if I'm not going to accept the fact that I'm gay, and stay being unhappy, so how and whats next for me???

I'm not trying to paint a beautiful gay life here... nothing is perfect, not even being straight.
But at the very least, accept who u are and stay truthful to yourself, and live your life u believe u ought to and worthwhile of... come on, somehow life can't be that bad, right? :rolleyes:

As for me, I know the fact that I'm gay... but although still no love or sex for me yet... *sob* :(
But so what! I've not totally given up hope yet... so just pray harder.
At least I promise myself that since I'm going to be gay for the rest of my life, I'll make double sure that I'll take good care of myself and stay beautiful and fabulous forever!

I'll make those guys regret not having the guts to have sex with me! Stupid men!


Cheers to being GAY!
Geisha

[smooth]

well said geisha,,,,,,,,,,u make very good points ,,,,,,,,,,but u never say hi to me.......

[bulls40]

is it worth to say i am gay in an arab country and you find yourself in prison and you loose everything???we have to be logic,you in europe and usa,you have very different image

[marky2143]

I've noticed so many arabs including myself say they're unhappy, and the non-arabs say they're fine with it. Quite simply arabs have a very different culture, where family is important. Being gay messes with this, as more than likely being gay means being an outcast from your family and friends.

[bobgay2008]

Marky, you are right. It is a lot more easy in western countries than in arab countries to be gay. I am fine with being gay but with all the restrictions in most arab countries I would have problems too. Hope this changes over time as it did in Turkey.

Family is something quite important for western culture as well. Well I'd really like to have children but do not want to marry a girl and make her unhappy as I am gay and do not find her sexually attractive.

[jeda]

I am very happy

[smooth]

i think the difference between cultures does make it harder being gay ,i was always comfortable ,even thought it was hard to come out,,,,,,

[geisha]

I do understand the differences in cultures make being gay difficult somehow.

Hmmm... let me think before I say anything again...

Should I put it this way, being gay is one issue, but leading a happy life is another option in life... :cool:

Hello everyone, look here:
I'm gay... but frankly, I didn't declare to everyone around me that I'm gay!
In other words, I'm still very much a closeted gay case here... :rolleyes:
But I told myself... there're various choices in my life.
I live in a somewhat conservative society too, gay activities are not accepted in public eyes... in fact, it is taboo and coming out gay really takes courage!
But then, I don't have to announce that I'm gay and freak everyone out... right?
Yet, I can still choose to live my life as happy as I want, within the tolerance of my community of course, cos the bottom line is, this is my life!

What I'm trying to say is: Accept who u are and love yourself! :)


Love yourself... in every way, everyday!
Geisha

[smooth]

but are you happy giesha ? some times you no seem to be happy ,,,maybe it just the way your posts sounds ,,,i don't know ,,,hit me up some time

[elvenneno]

ohhhhhhhhh, yes, he's happy, i think soo :)))

[elvenneno]

be yourself, no matter what they say !!!

[boy19]

I'm definitly happy to be gay.

[asahee]

i like chubby boys only

[afaas]

no i'm happy

[94170400]

i am happy too, why not?

[geisha]

Yes, u guys are right... I'm definitely happy, why not?


Love ;)
Geisha

[matin]

yes and very happy

[xq28]

I am happy but what I don't like and makes me feel sad it's homophobe

since everybody have their rights to do what they want (as long as not break the law), homophobiac is tolerable. and we cannot blame them at all, they didn't choose their own nightmare...
one thing is true, just don't hurt anybody that can make you hated.

hmmm... happy?
i'm enjoy it. if i'm not, i won't be on it.

[j0hn1000]

am not really happy with it...i just live with it...it causes me trouble most of the times...

[seif1993]

well i am very sad that i am gay because i cant live a normal life because i keep it secret and i told very few ppl of my issue cuz in egypt they dont accept gays in any way well i go psychiatrist to help me to get normal again because in the far future i want to marry and have kids like normal people sometimes i just hate my self for bring gay (no offense)
i dont know wat also to say i just want to leave

[smooth]

oh my ,,,this is so bad to read and hear this ,,i wish i could hold you both and give you comfort,,,but i realize what you say ,,,coming from very divergent cultures ,,,oh well ,,,love to you both

[seif1993]

Thanks smooth I really appreciate wat u r saying because sometimes all i need is love specially in this part because a have a lot of friends and they love me very much but they don't know that i am a gay that make feel bad because i am hiding my other character so sometimes i need to be hugged sometimes i need to be kissed i have never had a boyfriend before because i want to keep my self virgin so its hard to find a boyfriend who doesn't want to have sex with his boyfeinds buy all i need some love hug and kissing no more and thanks to all people :)

[scrappy27]

im happy with myself

[ojjim2000]

joseph1967 i agree with you to a certain extent.

I try to live as you say in your response, however, there are some days that it just can not be avoided, no matter how much it seems irrelevant.

[bulls40]

how can you be happy .where everything is against you,you have your family,your friends,your neighbours,plus the society where you live with it,of course in open societies where gay is not tabou,than i am sure,you will be happy,you are not scared

[geisha]

Hello?

Actually to be happy... everyday, is not as difficult as u think.
Simply enjoy whatever within the limitations allow, I believe being happy about life is not just about being accepted as gay right?

I'm still single, I've not declared myself gay yet, and I don't have a lover, but most importantly, I'm still enjoying my life, there got to have other aspects of life which u can do and enjoy... hey, u only live once my dear!

With or without a boyfriend, I still need to run my own life well, so that I feel good everyday. For me, I enjoy my yoga, my coffees with a few friends, my travels and my little moments alone at home in my own room, to me that's also enjoying life... easy?


Get real! Its your life!
Geisha

[smooth]

hi ,,,dear geisha,,,i love your post that is a very uplifting thought you have ,,,,you are a inspiration,,,,,,

[fundude79]

yes i m happy being gay

[lvhirtdhgols]

no Im not happy because everybody was born strait.
and sometimes the conditions make the people act as a gay.

[smooth]

mmmmmmmm that is interesting ,,,but myself ,,i disaggree,,,,i think we are born str8 or gay ,,,both types ,,,,not all one way ,,,but i do agree certain conditions can affect us ,,,but ,,i enjoy to read more of your ideas

[allef]

God yes i am so glad i am gay. I've come to the point that i really dont care what others think of me being gay. When i was younger i was sad and scared that anyone would know. What i am very sad about is all the gay people in other countries who can't be themselves, who must hide for fear of punishment or death...

[Joshi]

Hi!

Personally I don't feel sad about being gay... However, everyone has good days and bad days and you shouldn't let the bad days let you get down and to let you feel less of a person you are. It's the sad reality that we have to live side by side with the homophobes but then again there are millions of ways to get over them too... I work for loads of organisations and have learnt to get over these low lives... PM me if you want to chat or respond here... x

[spatrick1234]

I am extrelemly happy being gay. If they made a magic "straight pill" I wouldn't take it. Love who you are.

[smooth]

hey i think that is the best answer i've read here ,,i never thought of it like that ,but you are very insight ful ,,great answer ,i love it ,,,,

[bader]

I am happy but what I don't like and makes me feel sad it's homophobe

[rikkie]

I am happy being gay. It took quite a long time to accept that. Having sex with a man makes me feel much more comfortably

[xq28]

no problem,
but sometimes I regret not getting married and have children...

well, after all, i know that this is the hardest thread i ever read.

and please, no more argues about happy or not. we all know what kind of dilemma we are facing in. this is a big shot. and we can't be such an ego, we didn't live just as ourself. we are about our family, relation, nation, future and everything on it. we are bigger than we think...

see what ymrum told? everything comes with a regret. (lol... i also ever imagine my self as daddy, with cute curly son and daught...)

it's like a refrain, when there were my-old-straight-dead-friend and me in the corner of starbucks when i came complaining; 'should i happy to be like this?'
he was not used to be like a trouble setter or peacemaker, but that day, after a long talk, he came up with his bright-wise side, told me; 'if you cant change it, stand it.'

don't live a lie, that's the poin i get.
but it's like we're in a jaguar full of nitros in a low-speed-limit highway. i'm in a cage...

[jdk1245]

I am happy being gay. I actually don't focus my full attention on this as there is more to me than being gay. It's not an issue for me.

[ahah1818]

Of course I'm happy being Gay... but the most important for me is that I'm proud of it

[hornycamboy]

yes am quite happie with the way I am

[Polarcoffee]

oh...man...i love being gay...

[Seda]

I'm happy with who I am all round - my sexuality is just one aspect of that happiness but doesn't define or limit me.

[Kenny]

I dnt knw if i am gay.mayb im in denile.but i do knw im curious.i could b bi.and im happy wich ever way i am.

[saleb_2006]

i am very happy

[gaygay99]

im bi, but i actually want to change to complete str8...i hate hiding and dishonesty and im in the closet so yeah i want to be clean and free...sorry guys, ur hot, but i dnt wanna do this anymore, but im not sayin it is goin to happen in like 1 month..ugh its sooo complicating :(

[contatotra]

yes, i am very happy

[toranaga_1]

I am happy that I am gay, the only frightening thing is that, you can`t found genuine love here in germany, its a cold world for a gay.

[temis]

none of being gay or arab should make people feel happy or sad ... it's not what you do it's what you are ...

[PabloP]

Am I happy being me? But of course! Why shouldn't I be... I can't be anyone but me.

[lebanise]

i am 28 and only found out that im gay recently. i dont think of my self as gay. i just think of my self as experimental.
being arab and gay is really tough.
with the way we're brought up and every thing.
i love sex and i love sucking cock. but trying telling ur family u like a big huge cock up ur behind.

i really dont care what they think.
but it want harm anyone if they dont know.

so i decided to keep it to myself, im 28 and dependent on myself and see my family every now and then so really there is no point of me telling them.
does anyone think other wise.
and before u act matcho and tell me to go tell the world. think of the damage it could do to my family and my relation with them.

laterz.

[toranaga_1]

a few remarks to my post from 10.Nov.
i find it good that the arabien gays make a decent result in its slowly comingout,
I'm having flashbacks to the early 70 Years here in Germany, as the Generations before my time has fought for here equal rights in the community.

[lebanise]

a few remarks to my post from 10.Nov.
i find it good that the arabien gays make a decent result in its slowly comingout,
I'm having flashbacks to the early 70 Years here in Germany, as the Generations before my time has fought for here equal rights in the community.

it must have been hard for u during those days.

but still its not easy for us either, being arabs i mean.
relationships between men and women are forbidden in our world/community. imagine it being same sex relation.

i enjoy being gay, i love the every sec in it and i love the sex, the pain the sucking, and what i love most is freedom.....
freedom to do anything and everything.
im not that experienced in relations with the same sex, i only had sex with a boy once before and i love it.
its more fun..

laterz.

[toranaga_1]

Hey Labanise / laterz

““it must have been hard for u during those days””

sorry, but i guess here is a misunderstanding, i have not fought, i am born 1982, fought has our

Generations before, i have the luckiness to live in conditions fit for human beings.

Greetings to you, Sven

[JCangel]

It isn't easy being gay in any culture, especially when you have strict religous or social structures in place.

Although we are more liberal now its is still a taboo. Maye in the future it will less so but in the meantime homoophobia is a concern.

it is not the world that is the problem; its the people who need to change, live your life as you need to, don't hurt others, and most peoplpe will let you be. Never be ashamed of who you are or what you are becasue at the end of it all its no ones business what you do behind closed doors.

Jc

[lebanise]

Hey Labanise / laterz

““it must have been hard for u during those days””

sorry, but i guess here is a misunderstanding, i have not fought, i am born 1982, fought has our

Generations before, i have the luckiness to live in conditions fit for human beings.

Greetings to you, Sven

i must have missunderstood ur previuos msg where u said u were having flash backs from the 70s..

its u cleared that out i thought u're a grand dad. lol

laterz is not my name
its me saying later.

laterz.
lol

[ahmed fadel]

honestly, i dont hate being gay at all! sometimes when i think to myself if i had the choice, i still would choose being gay. i feel it is pretty much going to ruin my life (i hope not) but i am happy that i am different, and i am happy that i dont believe in god, i dont want to be anything that made most arab people reach this level of... i dont even know what to call it. im sorry if i offended anyone, i am an arab too.

[Aliston]

hehheheh..... Just to be what we are ...

[Murat]

Hi Lebanise. I am much older than you. I spent many years denying my sexuality. Like you I could not face the consequences of coming out. Once I did I felt free and wished I had come out earlier. The reason waas that I met my partner. He is from Iraq. That was 15 years ago.e wanted to be together, not hide it. A gay friend told me thasy when you come out to your friends and family those friends who can't accept you were never really your friends. So I did lose a few friends who could not accept me or my partner. Who wanted to treat me a if I was still straight. With family its different. Mine accepted it, my partner ook much longer to tell his family, seven years in fact. They did not throw him out. They accept his is gay but do not recognise that I exist. Except one who is very supportive. Only you can decide whether it is right for you to come out. If you do do not assume that your family will throw you out. Am I happy being gay. 100 per cent yes. I have met someone I love, and have gay friends who are true friends, and straight friends who respect me for whatt I am. OK it has taken a long long time to get to this point. It has not been easy. The sex is the easy part, easy to find that in London I hope you have gay arab friends here in London and I hope you to meet someone you will love. If you want to know where you can meet other gay arabs in London let me knoe and I'll send you a PM

[europeanboy3]

I dont accept myself...it is always difficult for me...and I dont know if I will ever accept myslef...I like girls as a girls but they are not sexual atractive for me...I love man body, ....dont know what to do...

[thanawat]

i cant change them buy i make for good think

[tolive]

the relation betewn 2 men it's happer than any relations = mind to mind= can do anthing in the life

[agigay]

yea, becauce i don't have problems with girls , mem's know what mam's nead

[ce83]

Am happy with being gay, but about the homophobia, you guys are right. We have to get rid of it somehow, and by being ourselves, eventually we will dissolve it, and then everyone will be ok with gay people in the world. Hopefully they will eventually treat us like everyone else, and being gay, won't matter in this world. We will all be equally the same. :)

[JCangel]

Am happy with being gay, but about the homophobia, you guys are right. We have to get rid of it somehow, and by being ourselves, eventually we will dissolve it, and then everyone will be ok with gay people in the world. Hopefully they will eventually treat us like everyone else, and being gay, won't matter in this world. We will all be equally the same. :)

I agree with this, people react to what they are afraid of. If you remove the reason to be afraid then there isn't or shouldn't be a problem.

Jc

[azar14libnan]

i dont know if i am gay. i am sexually attracted to men and women..but i guess men more. i mean i have never had any sexual experience before, but i know when both guys or women touch me it feels good..it makes me feel good.

[JCangel]

i dont know if i am gay. i am sexually attracted to men and women..but i guess men more. i mean i have never had any sexual experience before, but i know when both guys or women touch me it feels good..it makes me feel good.

as long as you are happy, someone will come along who you are compatible with sexually. In the meantime enjoy life.

Jc

[codestud3]

hey thanks... i think most people will say anything that sounds politically correct... the answer is no, most people are not happy being gay... being gay has taken away a lot of support and structure from their lives and one learns to live with it... but basically we live in denial...

[Hoosha]

I'm happy 100% except there's this fear that I'm going to burn in Hell because of it, as I've grown older I've stopped believing in religion I guess, but still...

[Murat]

To say that "most peope" are not happy being gay goes to the root of the problem, it is as if we have a choice, like those Christians who beleive that through prayer they can make a gay man straight. Being gay is not a choice it is a statement of fact about your sexuality. I do not know why I am gay. What I do know is that i wasted many years of my life denying it and only found happiness when I admitted it. despite all the grief that I got and the friends I lost. Why do we as gay people look at the straight world and think everybody is happy and more content than we are. please look at the straight world around you, there is as much sexual dishonesty and unhappiness as there is in our world the only difference is that it is taken as being normal. You wold never ask a straight man if he if happy being striaght. Life is not about being happy all the time. being gay can be dangerous, sometimes impossible where you live. do we give up. NO we try to be ast rue to ourselves as our society will allow us. Don't ask yourself are you happy being gay. Say I am gay, now how do I get on with my life with all its difficulties, there are things in this world 1000 times worse than your sexuality.

[je33]

Salut joseph, sometimes we have to decide which is the good decition to make. I was dating a guy form damascus, he is one of the most important persone in my life, unfortunatly, From syria. We broke up cause the social situation. Dont felt in love with if u thing u r not able to give love back.

[justduit]

Hi guys...any arab living in Malaysia? Please keep in touch and text me. Thanks